Another bad decision

[pyoor_excuse]

I increasingly feel like every decision we've made regarding housing and property in the US is bad. Our land is a fucking disaster area that's sucked up half our money and is like some albatross around our neck that we can't sell. Thanks Thurston for that shit.

Our house is turning into a complete pigging nightmare. Our contractor actually seems like a good choice, at last, but he's small fry in a pool of bigger fish, I suspect. Why? Because our possible truss delivery date has gone from the mid-end of November to January.

I've called an additional 7 truss companies (on top of the 3 local ones he called) - and as we move further away, the cost for shipping gets insane, but so far the only place that could actually get them to us quicker is in Texas and would add $4500 on for shipping.

But the problem of the trusses means that:
- Ideally we should be doing windows after trusses, which means trying to do windows in January.
- We miss the deadline for a bunch of rebates that expire in December, meaning we're possibly losing an additional few thousand dollars because we won't have heating, or electrics installed and working by the end of the year.
- We're stuck paying mortgage on a house we can't live in.

So this is all fucking depressing.

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[pyoor_excuse]

Yeah. I thought about politely bringing it up with the doctors, trying to find out something more specific, but I've not quite managed to find the enthusiasm to do that. Instead, I just feel vaguely resentful and question every decision.

If you're going to complain about someone, you should have something specific to complain about.

*sigh*

[shadesofmauve]

That's the thing. When you get criticized in that particular way, it removes all your motivation to actually address it. It's a morale killer. :(

[pyoor_excuse]

The thing is I do actually want to address it, because I'm quite proud of being good at my job. I got offered a senior position in the ER in the UK after less than a year working in that speciality. It's one of the few things I actually have a fairly reliable sense that I can do.

So this is not good for my confidence.

[shadesofmauve]

*hugs* I understand that. You're marvelously competent at a wide range of things -- good person to have around during the collapse of civilization -- but imposter syndrome is a bastard.

Don't know if it helps, but the person delivering unhelpful vague critique might be bad at hard conversations and have thought that vagueness was protective. And most people react pretty well to an honest "I've heard someone is having some sort of issue with me, and I'd really like to know what so that I can work on fixing it."

Of course, some other people are assholes, so *shrug emoji*