This sort of thing is such a nexus of our lives, values, and work. Like, what could be more essential than house stuff, than where you live, and your ability to have agency within and some measure of control over your environment? It's easy for it to be incredibly discouraging.
Yesterday I made about 30 phone calls trying to get some basic paperwork for our car that no other car would (1) need; nor (2) have a hard time getting. The most helpful person (not to say the most kind) was someone who just straight up offered to forge it for us, at a hefty price. (Not necessary; worst case our auto body guy can get a reproduction for a tenth of the cost.) I'm trying and failing to wrangle a contractor for the things the buyers want done to our house. All the houses we liked are now sold or under contract, so I'm worried I won't be able to find a place to buy after we sell. I can't be home (whatever "home" is) for the next four nights, even though I really want to be.
All of the other miseries in my life are amplifying those and getting projected onto those. I'm working 14 hour days so I feel like I have some control over outcomes in my life. I'm dropping things that matter on the house by getting more fixated on stuff about the car.
We spiral when these kinds of things are at stake.
You're badass and are cutting your way through all of these very hard things, and you will make it wherever you are going.
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Date: 2017-10-26 08:08 pm (UTC)Yesterday I made about 30 phone calls trying to get some basic paperwork for our car that no other car would (1) need; nor (2) have a hard time getting. The most helpful person (not to say the most kind) was someone who just straight up offered to forge it for us, at a hefty price. (Not necessary; worst case our auto body guy can get a reproduction for a tenth of the cost.) I'm trying and failing to wrangle a contractor for the things the buyers want done to our house. All the houses we liked are now sold or under contract, so I'm worried I won't be able to find a place to buy after we sell. I can't be home (whatever "home" is) for the next four nights, even though I really want to be.
All of the other miseries in my life are amplifying those and getting projected onto those. I'm working 14 hour days so I feel like I have some control over outcomes in my life. I'm dropping things that matter on the house by getting more fixated on stuff about the car.
We spiral when these kinds of things are at stake.
You're badass and are cutting your way through all of these very hard things, and you will make it wherever you are going.